7 Easy Steps To Become More POSITIVE:

December 4, 2012

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Have you ever noticed how a negative thought can snowball into a huge problem? It’s as if a tiny snowball was being rolled along the ground and before too long you have a huge ball big enough to be a snowman’s body?

Negative thoughts can grow and fast become out of control. Positive thoughts on the other hand can grow and become powerfully motivating. So, how do you become a positive thinker?

1. JUST DO IT! Maybe you’re thinking it’s just not that simple Sarah…. And I’ll say ‘It Could Be! If it doesn’t feel natural to you to begin with, keep practising until it becomes second nature. Positive people are in the habit of being positive so by doing a little bit each day you get your own snowball of positivity building. Start each day with a positive thought. Write it down and carry it with you for the day, looking at it frequently. If you’re stuck for ideas go to: http://tinybuddha.com/wisdom-quotes/

2. Turn off the news and the depressing soaps. If you hear more negativity than positivity it will get you down. It will lower your energy levels. You wouldn’t allow anyone to follow you day in and day out complaining and filling your head with doom and gloom so don’t allow that in. YOU have the on/off switch. YOU buy the newspaper. YOU have control.

3. Positive People Mix with people who love life and who focus on the possibilities not the limitations… People who see the glass as half full, or who believe it’s about to be topped up!

4. Banish negative chatter. I don’t just mean the gossip you hear around the coffee machine at work, I mean the stuff that’s going on in your head. The voice that dwells on the ‘what ifs’ everytime you consider the future, and the what ifs become so scary it paralyses you from action.

Start to notice this happening and STOP! Find a positive thought to replace it with and smile to yourself…. Smiling helps J

5. Feed your brainRead something positive, uplifting, and empowering daily! Short of ideas? See my list of favourite books from around the world: https://sarahspositivethoughts.wordpress.com/resources/

or follow a positive blog such as my friend Kelvin Ringold  at http://intenselypositive.com

6. Good Samaritan – do something nice for someone! Even if its just acknowledging someone at the cash desk at the bank or supermarket…. Or opening a door for someone…. Or just a smile. They’ll feel good and you will too.

7. Play your song. You know – the one that always makes you feel good. We’ve all got one! One of my favourites is Nina Simone singing Ain’t Got No – I Got Life http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wNZGoaAn7wU&feature=fvst

Find yours, or borrow mine, and listen to it first thing in the morning — on your way to work would be fantastic — on your way home or while you prepare supper. You will feel good!

So that’s great, you’re now positive!Well, you will be by the end of 21 days. Research has shown that in order to form a habit we need to do it for 21 days. So give it a go and within a month, I promise, your world will have changed.


Procrastinating Again – Just Say Poppycock

June 8, 2010

Isn’t it funny how you can always find the time to do the things in life you really want to do, but procrastinate and put-off those jobs you don’t enjoy?

‘Poppycock’ is my mot du jour. Apparently it stems from the Dutch, meaning dung and translates into nonsense, bull, baloney. It’s proving particularly useful as I hear myself procrastinating yet again and give myself excuses for not completing my tax forms this week.

My plan was to set aside the whole day today to complete this hideous administrative task. Great plan! Unfortunately the day is fast concluding and I’ve already found lots of fun things to do to distract me. And yes, writing this has been one of them! Every time I think of the pile of paperwork I have to get through and the form filling required I feel drained of energy and irritable. But I’m a coach and love positive thinking, so surely I can turn this around?

So, I decided to coach the coach and it went something like this…

Q. What is it that’s causing you to procrastinate so much?

A: I don’t know really. I just hate the detail of the paperwork. Every time I think about it I feel drained. It’s not that it’s particularly difficult, it just takes time, and has to be checked and rechecked. I’m the only person I know who can add up the same column of figures three times and get three different results  – and that’s with a calculator!

Q. How have you felt in the past when you’ve completed a task you’ve been putting off?

A: Great! Relieved. It’s funny but although I hate this particular task and always put it way down my priority list, it never really takes as long as I anticipate and really isn’t that difficult. I’m quite good at keeping the paperwork together so it’s just a matter of getting round to it.

Q. It sounds to me as if the thought of doing the task is filling a lot of your time, draining your energy and stopping you having as much fun as you usually do, is that true?

A: Yes, definitely. I’m really not settling at anything at the moment. I feel guilty because I’m not getting on with it so can’t really enjoy the things I want to be doing.

Q. If you were to look at your diary now, how much time would you realistically need to put aside to complete this task?

A: About a day, a day being until school pick up at 3.30 anyway.

Q. Good. So when have you next got a free day?

A: Well, I have a few commitments next Wednesday but I could reschedule them to clear the day.

Q. That’s great. How would you feel if you cleared next Wednesday for paperwork and made a commitment to complete it all then?

A: It feels as if I’m more in control.

Q. How will you feel by Wednesday night?

A: So much better. Ready to celebrate. In fact I might arrange to go out with a friend to reward myself. Yes, great plan. Thank you!

As you can see, by focussing on the way we feel once the dreaded job is completed we can  feel more positive. In our head the job is behind us and we’ve got the feel-good factor again. By tapping into that positive feeling we’re in a far better state of mind to think creatively and get things done. Gone is the procrastination we felt when the task was still in front of us.

In reality, nothing on the outside has changed, but in our head, there’s a very different energy – one that will now spur us into action and produce results.

5-minute challenge

What are you procrastinating about? What are the tasks you’re putting off?

Take 5 minutes to write them down, and go through ( or better still go through with your coach or a friend ) the questions above, tweaking them if necessary to release the positive feelings that lie the other side of the task. Take time to really get in touch with the satisfaction you will feel once the job is completed. Then, and only then, turn your mind to the actions you need to take to get the other side of the task you’ve been putting off. Do you need to

a) delegate it,

b) find further information or take action before you can complete it, or

c) just get on and do it?

Choose your next step and make a commitment today to do that. The faster you are the other side of this hurdle the faster you’ll have more energy, positivity, and fun. It really is that simple when you break it down. Take that first step and gain some forward momentum today.

And next time you find yourself procrastinating, just remember, the word is ‘poppycock’!

Have a wonderful week – see you the other side of your current hurdle!

Warmest wishes

Sarah

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What needs to happen for your life to be more fun?

March 16, 2010

This is the question I’ve been pondering this week.

It’s not nearly as easy as I thought it was going to be to find an answer.

All the usual answers came up.. go to the cinema to see Alice in Wonderland ( but that was really for the children and the write ups have been mixed), new clothes ( in-between seasons so no point ), holiday ( next one is planned for the summer..remember summers?!)… and so it went on. All my ideas had a counter-productive voice negating them. I tried again…. And then it started. You know…. the oughts, shoulds…and of course the buts….

So what would be fun?

 The best I could manage was: ‘I’d love to decorate my study’

….But that’s not actually true. I ought to decorate it as it’s an eclectic mix of 3 different colour schemes ranging from pink, to neutral, to yellow depending on what was behind which cupboard that’s now removed…. yeuch, really not a good room to work in!

However, I’m dreading the process so it’s not getting done. I hate all that wiping down, brush cleaning and general mess.

Ok, so let’s look at the end result, raise the energy and think more positively…

I do like the idea of having a freshly decorated area specially for me though. A place where I can be creative and would enjoy going every morning. I’d really enjoy designing an area that reflected my personality and could become a sanctuary all of my own…… Mmmmm, I’m looking forward to decorating that room after all. Think I’ll do a mood board this week-end and get the creative juices flowing….

Better…

By focussing on the end result rather than the process, positive thinking can be used in everyday life to motivate, create energy and enthusiasm.

5-minute challenge:

 – Write down an ‘ought‘ or ‘should‘ that is always on your ‘to do’ list ?

 – Imagine the end result if you did this and describe in as much detail as you can.

 – Describe how you would feel

 – Re-write your first statement without the words ‘should‘ or ‘ought

 – What would make this fun…. be creative!

Enjoy exploring the possibilities … bring back the fun!

Let me know how you get on and let’s celebrate the successes!

Sarah