Life Can Be So Unfair

Every month I have a sacred day…Ok it’s not exactly sacred in a deeply spiritual sort of way but it’s my day when I have intelligent conversation with like minded women about our businesses. We network, share ideas and tomorrow I was presenting my business to the group for the first time. A whole 5 minutes of uninterrupted opportunity to speak – try getting that at home!

But no, just as I was putting the final touches to my highly original presentation that was going to require sand and water and resemble something like a Blue Peter project if I’m honest (and was probably going to get me thrown out) one of my children suddenly had a massive headache and started to throw up. Excellent! I can almost hear the film of my day tomorrow being yanked out of the projector, the music stops before we even reach the end of the intro, and my tomorrow is already being rescheduled.

Now, the adult in me knows that this is why I work from home and have a flexible job. I’ve planned to be able to rearrange things around my children. Fine. But the child in me wants to scream  ‘It’s not fair. Tomorrow is my day and I was looking forward to it!’ ‘Why me; why now?!’ I need to stamp and throw my toys out of the pram. I need my sacrifice to be noticed.

But the coach in me is calmly saying  ‘Don’t react…. Respond’.

So I sat, and I thought, and I sat some more ( I’m only human after all) and then I thought again. In a few years time my children will have left home and I’ll wonder where those days went. The ones where they needed me to be there for them, the ones where we sat and talked, the ones where we laughed and cried. Those moments can’t be replaced.

I put away my papers, my sand and the water ( it really was going to be a presentation with a difference ) and I put them in a box marked ‘June’.
It’s not so long to wait and, for now, I have memories to make……

6 Responses to Life Can Be So Unfair

  1. vishram godbole says:

    Hi Sarah,
    an amazingly simple but effective write up. Things are so simple in life but we made it difficult.
    Thnx and kind rgrds

    • Thanks Vishram,
      It’s so easy to let life take over, muddy our vision, and distract us from what’s important in life. I think today I’m going to enjoy stepping back and seeing the view from a few paces away.
      Enjoy your day.

  2. I am reminded of the Dennis P Kimbroe quote

    “Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to

    Knock them dead in June girl and enjoy the bonus mum points which are so precious and hard to come by!

  3. Sarah Dale says:

    I’ve been there. And indeed today I am working from home to prepare a presentation and my youngest daughter is off sick with sore throat which she has given to me too… She’s 12 now so these things are much easier than they used to be – but in any age of family “stuff” happens. I agree entirely with your reactions of “It’s not fair” (my most memorable time was missing out on a day at a spa with colleagues for the same reason), followed by a more balanced perspective. It’s an on-going one for parents (especially mums?) – I’ve come to try to view it as part of the messy rich tapestry that comes with combining work and parenthood. I don’t always succeed!

    • Hi Sarah,
      Thanks for the words of encouragement….. I guess the quote ‘You can’t stop the waves but you can learn to surf’
      (Jon Kabat-Zinn) applies really well here. Enjoy the white water!
      Good luck with the presentation.

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