Have you ever noticed how a negative thought can snowball into a huge problem? It’s as if a tiny snowball was being rolled along the ground and before too long you have a huge ball big enough to be a snowman’s body? Let me explain what I mean.
A friend of mine went shopping with her 14 year old daughter. They were having a lovely day when she decided she wanted some non regulation school shorts for PE. ALL her friends were wearing them and her Mother was the worst Mummy in the whole world if she insisted she wore the regulation black…. You know the sort of thing! She would have no friends and everyone would hate her. As if this wasn’t bad enough my friend headed this off with a lecture about what happens to girls that don’t conform at school… I’ll spare you all the negative diatribe she apparently spewed but the end result was that she told her daughter she would be pregnant at 18 and living on state benefits…. Yes I know, all because of a pair of shorts!…. It was the snowball, it just kept growing! Now fortunately on this occasion they laughed and still do today when, at 18, she is still very independent and travelling the world, self financed and not a maternal thought yet!
My point is that negative thoughts can grow and fast become out of control. Positive thoughts on the other hand can grow and become powerfully motivating. So, how do you become a positive thinker?
1. JUST DO IT! Maybe you’re thinking it’s just not that simple Sarah…. And I’ll say ‘It Could Be! If it doesn’t feel natural to you to begin with, keep practising until it becomes second nature. Positive people are in the habit of being positive so by doing a little bit each day you get your own snowball of positivity building. Start each day with a positive thought. Write it down and carry it with you for the day, looking at it frequently. If you’re stuck for ideas go to: http://tinybuddha.com/wisdom-quotes/
2. Turn off the news and the depressing soaps. If you hear more negativity than positivity it will get you down. It will lower your energy levels. You wouldn’t allow anyone to follow you day in and day out complaining and filling your head with doom and gloom so don’t allow that in. YOU have the on/off switch. YOU buy the newspaper. YOU have control.
3. Positive People — Mix with people who love life and who focus on the possibilities not the limitations… People who see the glass as half full, or who believe it’s about to be topped up!
4. Banish negative chatter. I don’t just mean the gossip you hear around the coffee machine at work, I mean the stuff that’s going on in your head. The voice that dwells on the ‘what ifs’ everytime you consider the future, and the what ifs become so scary it paralyses you from action.
Start to notice this happening and STOP! Find a positive thought to replace it with and smile to yourself…. Smiling helps J
5. Feed your brain – Read something positive, uplifting, and empowering daily! Short of ideas? See my list of favourite books from around the world: http://sarahspositivethoughts.wordpress.com/resources/
or follow a positive blog such as my friend Kelvin Ringold at http://intenselypositive.com
6. Good Samaritan – do something nice for someone! Even if its just acknowledging someone at the cash desk at the bank or supermarket…. Or opening a door for someone…. Or just a smile. They’ll feel good and you will too.
7. Play your song. You know – the one that always makes you feel good. We’ve all got one! One of my favourites is Nina Simone singing Ain’t Got No – I Got Life http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wNZGoaAn7wU&feature=fvst
Find yours, or borrow mine, and listen to it first thing in the morning — on your way to work would be fantastic — on your way home or while you prepare supper. You will feel good!
So that’s great, you’re now positive!Well, you will be by the end of 21 days. Research has shown that in order to form a habit we need to do it for 21 days. So give it a go and within a month, I promise, your world will have changed.